[quote="Fluffy_Bunny":a82da]O.K. I'm glad some of the guys have morals. Now lets make this more interesting.

Who here has been cheated on? I'm asking these questions kus some bitch I really liked cheated on me & it hurt like fk. We weren't in a relationship or anything but we were dating, next thing you know I find out the bitch is lying to me & seeing other guys at the same time & making excuses that she can't see me. Sucks ass kus I liked her more than any other girl, but I gotta be strong & not get back with that lying cowbitch from hell! mad: cry:[/quote:a82da]

Well i've dated 2 girls at once, I don't know if I would call that cheating. How can it be cheating if your not in a relationship? Granted, I wasn't making up excuses not to see one of them, it was more of a "I don't want to see this girl anymore because this better girl is right here".

I don't think i've ever been cheated on though. At least not that I know of.

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Who here has been cheated on?[/quote:aa397]
I never have cheated or been cheated on, but I've been the guy two other girls have cheated with, drunken hook-up things, basically innocent stuff here and, AFAIK, they are still with their boyfriends today.

I guess i'm the minority. While dating, i always had more than one g/f. I always told one of them about the other making the whole situation easier to do. You need at least one on your team to pull it off.

As for marriage, it's not in the game plan but life can deal you some curves. Sometimes things can happen for reasons unknown. It's something you definately want to stay away from however, thats why you need to get it out of your system when you're single.

Whoa i thought you were married arkan.

he is...isnt he?

Yeah, i am. Dating and marriage are two different things hence my different take on both.
Lets recap: Cheating while dating is ok. Cheating while married is a no no. No one gets married on the assumption they are allowed to cheat. All i'm saying is that sometimes things happen in life which may allow something like that to happen. Just imaging your grandparents being married forever and granddad worked 2 jobs, things at home were stressful with the 11 kids running around, and they (grandparents) were fighting everyday. Then, granddad is in the local gin mill and gets sauced. All of a sudden, the lady from the bakery where granddad gets his rolls every Sunday morning comes in and is having the same troubles as he. They both get to talking and feel relaxed around eachother and both understands the others problems. Then before you know it, a few drinks later, granddad is getting laid out back in his 40 Merc. Did he plan on cheating on his wife? No, he was thrown a curve at his weakest moment and he succumbed. It wasn't in the cards, it was something that just happened.

That scenario could happen to anyone who's married.

See, i read that as you dont plan to be married.


Ontopic: Cheating while married is a no no...its a reason why my folks are split...well my dad was gaining interest in a new woman, and was being a dick to my mom..funny that i live with him now.

Looking at it now, i can see where i could confuse the reader. I should've said " As for marriage, "cheating" is not in the game plan".

Sorry for the confusion.

[quote="Fluffy_Bunny":99abf]Who here has been cheated on?[/quote:99abf]
Happened to me once, and it was the one that counted. Me and my ex (the only girl i would call my ex) were together for almost 5 years. We started hot and heavy and were like that until the very end. This was the only woman i really, really loved. Our last year together, we were kind of in a rut; i was in a job i hated and she was finishing up school. the only time we spent together is when she came over to my house before i went to work and we always had sex. its not something i took for granted, its just that if we only have a hour to spend with eachother, we usually fooled around. its kinda funny how atuned you become to your partner, your senses become so perfected, you pick up on a seemingly minute thing. one day she was getting dressed and ready to leave my house when i asked her if she wanted to go to the movies later that night. she said no because she had to work that night. i walked her out to her car and then went to work. for some reason, what she had said had triggered a flag in my mind. i dont know how i knew, but for some reason, her going to work was just very unusual, because if she had to work that day, i would have already known about it and wouldnt have asked her to go to the movies. shes never lied to me before and we are always completely honest with eachother, so i didnt really have a reason to question her. when i was at work, that shit kept bugging me, so during my break i called her work to talk to her, but really to see if she had showed up. her manager said she wasnt scheduled, and so i knew there was trouble. i got home and told her that i called her at work and she was just silent over the phone. she broke down and said it (our relationship) wasnt working and she wanted to break up. later on she told me that she had met someone else and though she technically hadnt cheated on me (sex) i felt she had because she had been spending time with this other guy. this is the worse feeling iver ever had and because of that, i really dont get too attached to the women i date.

no matter what kind of relationship you are in, cheating on someone is totally fucked up. there really isnt an excuse for it. if you are playing the field and want to see what kind of women are out there, then thats ifne, but you need to let the people you date know that. i go out with women, and when we talk, i make it perfectly clear that im not ready for a relationshiip and that im just looking around to meet new people. ive been with several women after my ex and all of them know that i see other people, so theyre ok with it. the difference between this and cheating is the simple understanding of the relationship. if you date a girl and go out a couple of times, shes gonna assume you are heading towards a relationship. just make your intentions clear, and everything should be ok.

POLYGAMY

What makes it ok? Just because you aren't in a major commitment, it's ok to crush and cripple your partners emotions?

yes. dating is meaningless, the whole point is to shop around and see what you like. if you see something youd rather have, you try it.

I'm looking at it from a relationship stance. I guess you guys are seeing it from a "dating/shopping" stance; in which cheating isn't all that frowned upon.

nope. my ex-gf tried to get with me when she found out i was with someone else.
figures she didnt want me when im available but when she cant have me shes all over me rolleyes: bitches

When you're older and finally settle on the special one, you'll understand. I don't expect you to understand my way of thinking and i really can't explain it any further. Just remember, test drive as many cars before you purchase one.