mine pops up in the tray and usually updates by itself sneakily when i'm not looking, i don't get any problems.
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http://www.download.com they have an updating program called 'Cnet: catchup' -it scans your computer for things that need updating and when its done you just click on links that update your computer, its really simple and very useful, makes alot of difference. try it out, you'll see the links on the website
