If you're looking for a good, fair server on which to play, there are a few good choices out there. Two for which I can speak personally are:
PureServers.com Public Server- 2034.157.6.21
Running Allied Assault and |NBM| (Noctis Balance Mod)
AllAboutNothing.net - You'll need to visit their site to get what you need to play there:
http://www.allaboutnothing.net
Running Spearhead and AANR (AllAboutNothing Realism)