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Madmartagen · 05-10-2005, 10:10 PM

[quote="Fluffy_Bunny":99abf]Who here has been cheated on?[/quote:99abf]
Happened to me once, and it was the one that counted. Me and my ex (the only girl i would call my ex) were together for almost 5 years. We started hot and heavy and were like that until the very end. This was the only woman i really, really loved. Our last year together, we were kind of in a rut; i was in a job i hated and she was finishing up school. the only time we spent together is when she came over to my house before i went to work and we always had sex. its not something i took for granted, its just that if we only have a hour to spend with eachother, we usually fooled around. its kinda funny how atuned you become to your partner, your senses become so perfected, you pick up on a seemingly minute thing. one day she was getting dressed and ready to leave my house when i asked her if she wanted to go to the movies later that night. she said no because she had to work that night. i walked her out to her car and then went to work. for some reason, what she had said had triggered a flag in my mind. i dont know how i knew, but for some reason, her going to work was just very unusual, because if she had to work that day, i would have already known about it and wouldnt have asked her to go to the movies. shes never lied to me before and we are always completely honest with eachother, so i didnt really have a reason to question her. when i was at work, that shit kept bugging me, so during my break i called her work to talk to her, but really to see if she had showed up. her manager said she wasnt scheduled, and so i knew there was trouble. i got home and told her that i called her at work and she was just silent over the phone. she broke down and said it (our relationship) wasnt working and she wanted to break up. later on she told me that she had met someone else and though she technically hadnt cheated on me (sex) i felt she had because she had been spending time with this other guy. this is the worse feeling iver ever had and because of that, i really dont get too attached to the women i date.

no matter what kind of relationship you are in, cheating on someone is totally fucked up. there really isnt an excuse for it. if you are playing the field and want to see what kind of women are out there, then thats ifne, but you need to let the people you date know that. i go out with women, and when we talk, i make it perfectly clear that im not ready for a relationshiip and that im just looking around to meet new people. ive been with several women after my ex and all of them know that i see other people, so theyre ok with it. the difference between this and cheating is the simple understanding of the relationship. if you date a girl and go out a couple of times, shes gonna assume you are heading towards a relationship. just make your intentions clear, and everything should be ok.

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Madmartagen is Offline Captain Posts: 5,558 Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Anaheim, CA	05-10-2005, 10:10 PM [quote="Fluffy_Bunny":99abf]Who here has been cheated on?[/quote:99abf] Happened to me once, and it was the one that counted. Me and my ex (the only girl i would call my ex) were together for almost 5 years. We started hot and heavy and were like that until the very end. This was the only woman i really, really loved. Our last year together, we were kind of in a rut; i was in a job i hated and she was finishing up school. the only time we spent together is when she came over to my house before i went to work and we always had sex. its not something i took for granted, its just that if we only have a hour to spend with eachother, we usually fooled around. its kinda funny how atuned you become to your partner, your senses become so perfected, you pick up on a seemingly minute thing. one day she was getting dressed and ready to leave my house when i asked her if she wanted to go to the movies later that night. she said no because she had to work that night. i walked her out to her car and then went to work. for some reason, what she had said had triggered a flag in my mind. i dont know how i knew, but for some reason, her going to work was just very unusual, because if she had to work that day, i would have already known about it and wouldnt have asked her to go to the movies. shes never lied to me before and we are always completely honest with eachother, so i didnt really have a reason to question her. when i was at work, that shit kept bugging me, so during my break i called her work to talk to her, but really to see if she had showed up. her manager said she wasnt scheduled, and so i knew there was trouble. i got home and told her that i called her at work and she was just silent over the phone. she broke down and said it (our relationship) wasnt working and she wanted to break up. later on she told me that she had met someone else and though she technically hadnt cheated on me (sex) i felt she had because she had been spending time with this other guy. this is the worse feeling iver ever had and because of that, i really dont get too attached to the women i date. no matter what kind of relationship you are in, cheating on someone is totally fucked up. there really isnt an excuse for it. if you are playing the field and want to see what kind of women are out there, then thats ifne, but you need to let the people you date know that. i go out with women, and when we talk, i make it perfectly clear that im not ready for a relationshiip and that im just looking around to meet new people. ive been with several women after my ex and all of them know that i see other people, so theyre ok with it. the difference between this and cheating is the simple understanding of the relationship. if you date a girl and go out a couple of times, shes gonna assume you are heading towards a relationship. just make your intentions clear, and everything should be ok.