Relationship problem

Poseidon · **Relationship problem -** 04-02-2006, 06:00 PM

Ok, Sorry for the really long post but I need to get it off my chest. Some of you remember me going on a date with my ex/gf like 2 months ago. Heres the story so far.

Basically, we split last week for a number of different reasons, I currently have no job and neither does she, so basically going anywhere is out of the question, Im basically only just managing to keep my car on the road, whilst im looking for a new job. Our relationship consisted of going to the pub pretty much every day, she wouldnt really speak all much as she has her many 'girly' chats. anyway once in a blue moon she'd come back to mine etc. Prolly the best part of our relationship, we'd get along fine, chatting, sex etc.

So we had a chat and decided to split - I was supporting the split as much as she was. However over the last week I've seriously been regretting the decision, i've found myself to be thinking of her pretty much all the time, basically realising that im actually falling in love with her.

I havent yet had the opportunity to tell her this. However this is the current situation:

She has been getting really close with this other guy she met a couple days ago, getting really flirty infront of me, etc. and found out tonight shes now going out with this guy. However a good friend of mine that knows this guy said he's basically a player, he's in it for the fuck. Now putting me in an awkward situation, my feelings for her and knowing this guy is a player.

So I took her home, she knew I was really upset and so we had a chat, I let it all go - telling her i'm falling in love with her etc, and the situation with this other guy (being a player) I have supplyed the name of my mate for reference should she want it. She started going on about how she didnt know my real feelings towards her etc,

Everyone that has seen us together has always said we are the perfect couple, even before we were going out. So with all this 'laid on the table' What the fuck do I do now? It'll take me a long time to get over her, Should I wait for her to approach me, or keep trying once/if her current relationship ends?

I'm also just looking out for her - not wanting her to get hurt by this others.

anti · 04-02-2006, 06:03 PM

well, if you two were a perfect couple you would still be together. breakups are hard, but you're just going to have to deal with it. in time your feelings for her will pass and it will be all over. let her go out with this douche bag and hopefully she gets burned, hard. maybe then shell realize what shes missing out on (you).

Arkan · 04-02-2006, 06:03 PM

You're not gonna like this but......

let her go. If she wants you, she'll let you know.

TGB! · 04-02-2006, 06:05 PM

[quote:fbeef]basically realising that im actually falling in love with her. [/quote:fbeef]

No youre not. . .youre just missing being able to have someone there 24/7 - and arent seeing a replacement for that anytime soon. As soon as you go out with someone else, or find something to put your dick into, you're going to find it difficult to remember this chicks name.

It has happened to all of us me boyo - just dont confuse what youre going through with "love". If you loved her - you wouldnt be in the spot youre in right now and would have attempted to work things out while you were together.

Just stay away, get drunk, find your job and youll get over it. If in a few months you still feel the same way - my power to ya.

Poseidon · 04-02-2006, 06:16 PM

Its not just since after we broke up, This relationships been completely different to every other, i've never felt like this about any other woman before. I know I should just forget about her, but before tonight we were like best mates, I dont know if anythings changed from what happened tonight.

mr.miyagi · 04-02-2006, 06:40 PM

jus wondering, how old are you poseidon/m1ck?

HeadUp · 04-02-2006, 06:54 PM

my close friend billy just broke up with his gf of 4 yrs and my roommate with his gf of a yr, this past few weeks have been horrrrrible

arkan is right, if you guys were meant to be together you will be

i often say girls need to get out there are experience that real lack of security before they want to come back, so let her go for now

[DAS REICH] Blitz · 04-02-2006, 07:06 PM

let her go, and as TGB comically put it "As soon as you go out with someone else, or find something to put your dick into, you're going to find it difficult to remember this chicks name."

Chiodos86 · 04-02-2006, 07:19 PM

breakups and teh gay, but in like 3 months you won't even care anymore

Poseidon · 04-02-2006, 07:45 PM

[quote="mr.miyagi":a3365]jus wondering, how old are you poseidon/m1ck?[/quote:a3365]

19 bud.

She aparently spoke to this guy and he said hes not in it for the shag. I mean wtf, course hes going to say that. rolleyes:

Sniper101 · 04-02-2006, 08:44 PM

PM me more about her, what she's like, what her likes are stuff like that. I can help you out more by knowing more about her, like how to get her attention and grab her back from that man whore

Chiodos86 · 04-02-2006, 08:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Sniper101

PM me more about her, what she's like, what her likes are stuff like that. I can help you out more by knowing more about her, like how to get her attention and grab her back from that man whore

he just wants to snatch her from you : )

Machette · 04-02-2006, 08:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Sniper101

PM me more about her, what she's like, what her likes are stuff like that. I can help you out more by knowing more about her, like how to get her attention and grab her back from that man whore

eek:

imported_Fluffy_Bunny · 04-02-2006, 09:13 PM

That blonde ho left me too, & it was damn tough... I tried to play it cool in the bar when she told me so I just said "Yer, Ok then, I'm kinda hungry anywhere round here that does food?" But after a week or so I was still a lil pissed off about it. I expected her to come back after me being so cool but she didn't so I told her to go fourth & multiply... Fortunately I'd given her a good seeing to before the split the_finger:

Being single sucks ass but I've noticed it sucks ass even more if you have time on your hands because you've nothing else to think about. I don't know what I'm going to do now... There's other girls around but I don't really give a rats ass about them & it's kinda hard to meet other people so now I'm thinking of an escape route via the forces or working in London.

I recommend getting a job you enjoy, that way you'll be so busy you won't have time to think about her. Thats how I was at my Navy course thing. If she really wanted you then she'd be with you, it's as simple as that.

Poseidon · 04-03-2006, 06:07 AM

Some good advise, i'll see what the upcoming weeks bring, concentrate on myself for a while, get a job, get a life etc.

Some good advise