How old r u? Above 30 stay, below 30 move.

No matter how old u r, you can always find a good job, but to build career the younger the better; (desirable) girl friend and friends are harder to come by when you're older, my $.02

the gangsta deciples own the VL biatch! throw them forks bitch! rock:

if she isn't into moving with you to benefit your job and your life. It proves she doens't care for you as much as you think.

exactly.

If she doesn't love you enough to go with you, than it's not worth giving up your career. Finding a new job is not a very easy thing to do, finding a new career, very, very difficult.

...or even worse, that you haven't dominated her and erroded
her individuality enough...you soft-cocked so-and-so! hake:

Man....noone stated the obvious. It's only 90 flipping miles away. What is that to you Californians, 1 hr driving time. Why can't you live where you do and drive the hr to work. Can't be that bad. Or you could move half way between both places. You'll be at work anyways either way for 8 hours out of the day or whatever how many hours you work. To me that would be my choice....if you think she maybe the one.

is it a job or a career? 14 bucks an hour is not much. Do they give you a relocation fee? Is your relationship solid or not? I just relocated after driving 100 miles a day for 18 months but I packed up the family and moved them with me (for a whole lot more that 14 bucks)

Well, it's more like a 2-2.5 hr drive. Moving anywhere in between is pretty much impossible for anyone living on a $14/hr wage. Unless he wants to go inland, which quickly becomes a hell-hole.

If I were you, I'd move. And make the occasional commute to go see her. I wouldn't break it off totally. It's not like your moving across the continent. It is possible to work things out in this situation. Just don't expect her to rip up her own roots for your sake. That's childish and selfish. But she shouldn't expect you to give up your career advancement for her sake. Just take some time with it. See each other when you guys can, discuss everything about this change as much as possible, and be completely honest with each other. Good luck.

so far here is the situation. shes been with the company for several years and she would continue to work there if it werent the drive. im considering to relocate and get an apartment down there IF i cant find a job that pays as much as i do now at least. it is a hard decision, but i think it would be a good opportunity to continue to work with Sony. Me and my girl have been going out for a month and we're pretty involved. i spend the night at her house all the time, we're pretty romantic and i made her multi orgasmic. The part that sux is that she doesnt really care as much as i thought she did. im not forcing her to choose between us or anything like that, i just wanted her to think about it and she just blew it off. quote: "its your choice, either you stay with SEL or you stay here." like thats some kind of motivation right? whatever.

like i said, weve only been dating for a month, so its not like we're getting married. i really do care about her, and i would rather stay with her than break up, but ive blown a good opportunity for a girl and i dont want it to happen again. i guess i answered my own question eh? oOo:

If that's what she really said to you, then drop her and make the move towards your career.

She could be playing some passive-aggressive mind game with you, acting all cool about how it's your choice but hoping you choose her. I say, if she isn't going to be upfront and honest, then you are wasting your time. Or, maybe she really doesn't give a shit either way. If that's the case, take the career move.

Edit: Oh and a question. Is the same gal you started going out with, that is kind of your boss? Not boss, but kind of?

Women, can't live with them, Can't bury them under the porch when your done.