Special thanks to kdja from TMT for pointing out how to do this.  I copied this from his post at mohadmin.com.
This works for me but not for others. 
Dont know why but i got it working after hacking away at ASE all weekend. 
3 Days of gamespy was enough. 
Simply follow the steps and then ponder why it works for some and not for others. 
1 PLace this FILTERS.TXT into your ASE DIR (updated today so its fine) 
http://homepage.eircom.net/~abyrne/filters.txt 
2 When you next load ASE Spearhead will be a FOLDER on the GAmes LIST click on it hit Custom CFG and point the EXE ONLY to The Spearhead EXE. 
3 Refresh the MOHAA GAME on the LIST.(they use the same ports) 
4Now the Spearhead FOLDER should now be an ICON (if not i dont know)
the folder changed to an icon after i refreshed the MOHAA folder, and restarted ASE